The Writing on the Wall

The office where I have my EFT practice has the most inspirational bathroom EVER! My office is part of a wonderful chiropractic practice called SCC Chiropractic & Vitality Studio. SCC  Dr. Jenny Bruck and her team strive to teach and empower their clients through healthy, mindful living. It’s not just any ol’ chiropractic office. Dr. Jenny offers monthly workshops on different ways to improve her patients’ overall health, not just their spinal health. She supports her patients in so many ways.

When Dr. Jenny asked me to join her office to help support her clients’ emotional needs, I was honored to become a part of such an amazing team. Using EFT, I’m able to guide clients to release negative emotions and limiting beliefs that are not only holding them back in life, but that may be also causing them chronic pain, stress and illness. By addressing the physical and the emotional aspects, our clients have the opportunity to enjoy a healthy, productive and inspiring life. But I digress… back to the bathroom.

In one of the bathrooms in SCC’s office, the walls are painted with different inspirational quotes and sayings. I always say I do some of my best thinking in the bathroom, mainly because it is one of the few places I can get a moment of privacy from the demands of life. I always take a few extra minutes to read the writing on the wall at SCC; to let the words sink into the writing that I have on my hidden subconscious wall.

We all have our own subconscious wall. We acquire the writing on our wall throughout our lives, most often during childhood. These are the rules we live by. But some of these rules are neither beneficial nor pertinent in our adult life, since many (most) were acquired during childhood. Consciously we may try to do things differently but this wall, this hidden wall, has the ability to override our conscious desires. More than likely, you are being run by the writing on your wall more than you think.

There are lots of examples I could give, like your ability to stick to and succeed at a diet; being able to walk into a test you studied for and ace it; finding your passion in life and making a successful career of it. The list is endless and it differs for everyone. But there are some specific negative rules that MANY people share. Unknowingly, these rules, this writing on their wall, ends up dictating everything they do in life. These specific rules are big, really BIG. The writing on the SCC bathroom wall brought up the “Big Three” for me.

While in the SCC bathroom one day, reading the writing on the wall, I realized it was really hard to “believe” some of the quotes. To really, truly accept the quote and feel it as a truth for myself. I realized that the writing on my own wall was over-riding the acceptance of what I was reading. I just didn’t feel like what was written could possibly be true, because it wasn’t what was on my wall.

I had the opposite on mine and it was dictating how I functioned in my life. My writing said, “If I try, I’ll fail.” Whoa! I thought of all the things in my life that I had wanted to do but had given up at the slightest bit of struggle or hadn’t even attempted at all! How had this writing on my wall affected my business and career choices? My finances? My relationships? My health??? How much had I avoided or disregarded because I was afraid I’d fail? What WOULD I do if I knew I couldn’t fail?! Oh the possibilities!

I began looking at the walls of that bathroom in a different light. As I read each saying, I paid attention to the reaction I had as I read it. Did it feel true, doable? Or did I feel a longing to do what the saying said, but felt it was unachievable.
“Think outside the box”… This saying brought up the hidden writing on my wall that said, “No one will like me if I’m different.” I have always been the queen of ideas… and yet I rarely acted on them. I always hesitated to put myself out there. The thought of not being a part of the “norm”, of doing something unexpected and unique, scared the crap out of me, so I rarely took the steps to try something different, something outside of the box. When I did, I always ended up self-sabotaging myself in some way. This, in turn, helped to reinforce my negative belief of “If I try, I’ll fail”.

I so desperately wanted this next picture of the writing on the wall to be true for me… but I just had the hardest time really believing life could actually be easy and effortless. The reason for this disbelief was the writing on my wall kicking in again… “I’m not worthy.”

It made me sad thinking of all I had missed out on, skipped, put off, all due to these simple yet powerful negative rules I had written on my wall. How I came to believe these rules and incorporate them into my life, I wasn’t sure. But I wanted it to change. I wanted the writing that was on the SCC bathroom wall to feel true, to be true to me. It was so inspiring, so empowering! I wanted that!!

I realized that I knew the perfect tool to help me overwrite all that unhealthy, negative writing on my wall… I had EFT/Tapping. Using this modality, I was able to reverse the negative rules that had dictated my life.  EFT allows you to get into your subconscious and reset any limiting, non beneficial rules you may have. Left in place this negative writing on your wall will not only affect your experiences in life but over time it begins to affect your body physically, showing up as pain, disease, and illness. EFT allows you to quickly and efficiently process, release and reset those rules written on your subconscious wall. This opens the door for success, confidence and health, both physically and mentally.

How true do the SCC bathroom wall quotes feel to you? Believable? Or do you have hidden negative writing on your wall, similar to what I had, that is holding you back or causing you pain? Wouldn’t it be nice to change those negative rules to positive, empowering rules?

What would YOU do if you knew you could not fail? Think outside the box and use EFT to change the writing on your wall. You, too, can feel better everyday in every way.  Because, “where our mind is, there we are…”

If you would like guidance and coaching to release and reset the negative writing on your wall, please use my contact page to set up an appointment.  I look forward to working with you!

~Becki

My Big Why

quotes-933816_1920There I was, the stay at home mom, by choice.  Most days I loved it but there were, of course, days were I felt frazzled and at the end of my rope.  For the most part, things ran pretty well.  We were only slightly late for things, we usually had clean laundry, there was always dinner on the table and the kids got to do the activities they wanted.  I really wanted to contribute to the family finances and to the world but it was easier and safer to stay in my little bubble, at home, doing what I had been doing, just wishing I had some purpose, some way to contribute.

 I came across EFT after having had an unusual and intense argument with a close friend that left me questioning myself on a deep level.  EFT helped me to release that confusion, that doubt.  I was simply amazed with the technique. So I started learning more about it and eventually became certified to be an EFT Practitioner.  I felt really strongly that I could help people through EFT.  So I hired a coach and got to work on creating my own practice.  

 So, I was now juggling my stay-at-home mom duties, plus trying to learn everything I could about EFT and my own self care, plus trying to start up a business from scratch, plus trying to enroll and see clients.  The pressure I placed on myself just built and built.  And one day, I quite literally Lost it.  I had the mother of all temper tantrums.  My kids had been bickering all day.  We had just returned from the supermarket, which had been beyond frustrating with both kids with me.  I was in the kitchen washing dishes and they started in on each other again.  I snapped.  I walked into the room they were in and lost my mind.  I started yelling about them bickering, which lead to why couldn’t they just listen to me the first time I asked them to stop, to why couldn’t they follow directions, to why couldn’t they just brush their teeth in the morning without being told, etc., etc.  I lost is so badly that I hauled off and kicked the recliner chair that was sitting next to me.  Pain shot up my foot and leg.  That chair was SOLID!!  That pissed me off even more!! I hobbled into the next room, still yelling about every little thing, yanked off my flip flops and chucked them across the room.  I stormed up the stairs to my bedroom and stood there steaming, and hurting.  That’s when it hit me.  I just couldn’t do this anymore.  I was done.  Done, with a potentially broken foot.  

 How in the world could I help my clients find clarity in their goals and purpose?  How could I help them release regrets and bad memories?  How could I help them have better relationships with their families?  How could I, guide them, to ultimately be in charge and in control of their lives and achieve their dreams, if I couldn’t do any of that myself???  

 After pulling myself together and apologizing to my children, I made it through the day.  The next day, as I limped into swim team practice, someone asked me what happened to my foot.  I was so embarrassed, so ashamed.  What would they think of me and my ability to coach if I was losing my temper and kicking things??  But, since they were a friend, I told them what happened.  And they laughed.  And then someone else asked what happened and THEY laughed!!  But I think the real eye opener was when I had to tell my chiropractor, who seems so perfect and healthy and calm, who is also a perfect person to refer people to me.  When I sheepishly told her what I did, she HIGH FIVED ME!!  What was going on??  And that was when I realized it.  We are all in the same boat!  We ALL have stuff going on in our lives!  We ALL have regrets and limiting beliefs.  WE ALL DO.

 I realized, then, that I was actually the perfect person to help people, especially moms.  Because I KNEW what it felt like to be in that spot where you want to do more but your mind and life seem to be spinning out of your control.  I knew what it was like to lose my temper over the complete feeling of overwhelm.  But I could help because I KNEW an amazing technique that I could teach them and their children, that could truly change their lives.  I came to the realization that I was trying to be perfect.  That I thought I couldn’t possibly coach others until I had achieved perfection and control and peace in my life.  I realized how completely wrong I was.  There is no perfection in life.  There will always be things that come up and trigger you.  There will always be calendars and chores to juggle.  But HOW you react to all that, is what it is really all about.  I realized that by teaching people EFT, I was giving them a lifelong tool that they could use to help themselves.  I realized that through my practice, my coaching, I could help people release those limiting beliefs they had carried through life, so they could achieve the dreams they thought were impossible.  I realized I could show children this tool to use for when they were feeling worried, or nervous or upset.  I realized that I could do this because I was right there with my clients, getting past the same types of blocks and resistances they had.  I was one of them.  About